Make her feel like a diamond not with material things, not with travel, not even intimacy. If you can do that without those tools. You’ve won her. Let her feel secured with no ring, no statuses, but security from your own true self. No secrets, no lies, honesty from the heart and soul. She will treat you like you won a lottery.
I went to the beach to chase last night’s sunset. While standing I heard my name called out, I turned and see a guy I used to date with his friends doing the chill sunset beer moments some groups do. I just literally saw him at the gym an hour ago and here I see him again. He waves calling me over to come by.
I walk over, offers me a beer but I decline. He asked why I was there. “I want to see the sunset tonight.” He goes “I always try to make it here every night if I’m free, it beautiful!” I agree.
He goes “So, are you dating anyone?”
Me: “What did you say again?” I heard it, but he already knows my terms of dating.
He goes “Are you dating anyone?”
Me: “I don’t know what that word you’re saying is.”
Him: “Oh yeah, that’s right, you don’t date.”
I’m not against love. But from what he knows as I told him earlier this year, I can’t date. Feelings occur, that I don’t know how to handle. And when I do go thru a relationship with a man, it hasn’t grown to be forever, it’s not it was a waste of time. An experience, but at the same I’ve learned the relationship with myself is best. People think love is loving someone else, but in honesty it’s loving yourself. And if someone else can come in and grow that love for yourself with them even more, they could be the one. I don’t date, because no one has made that spark happen. I did in my past did feel it twice, that it was real, but lack of communication has made that spark disappear teaching me it wasn’t mean to be.
I’ve neglected blogging. Not on purpose. But with thoughts flooding my mind, that it takes some time to digest. My evernote has so many notes to remind myself where I am now.
It’s amazing how just a particular time in your life you can take a pause from everything and the answers you’ve been wondering of for years come all at once into understanding. You find out the difference from the positives and the negatives. You learn whether or not you were in love or not in love with someone. Or you find out you were in love with someone and wasn’t aware of it as well.
Life is life. Life is real. How we take it, is how we grow, how we move forward without falling down. Some bumps may occur, but know how to get up on your own. Live the life you love.
When you bring peace to your past is the best way to move forward for your future. We need to be the best version of ourselves to discover who we really are in life to love ourself fully before we can completely love anyone else.
Who I am now has a lot to do with my past . What I’ve been through, who I’ve been with, and the biggest factor. Pain. You can sit down and cry it out for as long as you want dragging it. Or use the pain, take it, turn it, guidance for the future to grow out of it.
Sometimes you cause yourself pain if you don’t communicate it out. The more you bottle it in, it lingers. Sometimes others cause you pain (unintentionally), they don’t know unless you tell them.
Honestly, I don’t communicate well with my parents, therefore, a lot of tension/pain arises on both sides. My relationship with my ex failed due to lack of communication. I don’t want my son to learn how to hold back or do lack of communication. I want him to learn that open communication actually leads to great feeling, you become happier.
2017 has been an awesome year. It does have some down moments, but in the end I find out I’m learning. Learning how to understand things, how I was, how things connected, how things fell or became great, emotions and hormones as well can be a bad mix. Communication plays the biggest factor, aside from looking at the positive side of things. Negativity gets you nowhere.
The hard part of communication, it goes both ways. To understand it as a whole, you must know both sides of the story. In honesty, it’s not fair to know only one side, but sadly it’s common this world.
It’s actually rate to get honest (or earn it) nowadays. But the ones that gave the courage to be open or honest in the most sensitive subjects have left me a memory I’ll never forget.
They say in life you fall in love with three different people or three times. The first, your highschool sweetheart. The second, the one you love most at the time. However, the second gives you the best and worst pain in life that teaches you the real experience to love. The third, it is impossible to be with due to challenges or obstacles that prevent you to be fully with them (you may or may not be with this person).
The thing is they never say who you end up being with. Is it the third one? Or does one of them come back? Is there a fourth person?
I know who my first and second love is for sure. But the third, there is someone in mind but I never loved him. Yet, he is all I think of each and every day for the past 4 years of my life. Did I even fall in love with the third and I did not know him yet? Or was it someone I’ve already loved in the past? The wonders of life as you try to understand yourself.