Who I am now has a lot to do with my past . What I’ve been through, who I’ve been with, and the biggest factor. Pain. You can sit down and cry it out for as long as you want dragging it. Or use the pain, take it, turn it, guidance for the future to grow out of it.
Sometimes you cause yourself pain if you don’t communicate it out. The more you bottle it in, it lingers. Sometimes others cause you pain (unintentionally), they don’t know unless you tell them.
Honestly, I don’t communicate well with my parents, therefore, a lot of tension/pain arises on both sides. My relationship with my ex failed due to lack of communication. I don’t want my son to learn how to hold back or do lack of communication. I want him to learn that open communication actually leads to great feeling, you become happier.